More from my Slate...

Often, it’s considered not quite comfortable, sometimes private topic to ask or reveal “The Age ‘as I am getting a year older myself, I thought I would revisit my age .... through the rearview mirror for a bit and to realize what I made of it and throw some words.

 

Age has been a blessing she has been nothing more than:

A collection of experiences.

Making new friends and losing old ones.

Knowing whom to trust and who stayed along with you irrespective of good times and bad, through thick and thin (you know Who I am talking about).

How many places you been to?

How many cuisines have you tasted?

How many rocks did you climb?

How much beer have you drink?

How much did you give?

How well did you spend (time and energy)?

How well have you loved?

and lastly: How much did you live...

 

Everything in this world has a measurement end of the day:

 

How many degrees did you achieve?

How much money did you earn or how fat is your paycheck?

How big of a house do you live in

How happy are you in your marriage?

How well are your kids doing yadda yadda...

Just a matter of time and everything I said the above will be measured, asked, judged ... that’s how it is, and by now you very well know what comes next, retirement, and its associated side effects of the last leg of life. So that is it. That is a perfect life and I do not want to know according to whom?

It is the people, the world / the society around you which is going to gauge, taunt or judge and torment you into knowing all the above so as to be called a perfect life lived. But who has got the recipe for it?

All of us have ended up doing something to make a living, our goals and our ambitions were different, and they will be, coz we all are not cut out from the same fabric neither we will be alike. Life takes us all in a weirdly random direction that none of us expect. We end up making choices and decisions and will be ending up in some corner of the world with people who we do not even knew. If not anything the Survival / Necessity / Responsibility /Passion would guide our moves largely and more likely we are a result of one of these four. While our habits kick in from the other side to define our lifestyle or health.

Growing old is inevitable, growing up is a choice and as we grow up, we become closer to ourselves and we tend have reduced patience for drama.  Aging transforms you into a lonely being and makes you glorify loneliness. Company of others becomes an effort that requires energy, courtesy, and many concealment and pretensions. So it’s very important to find someone with whom : we don’t have to conceal of what we were / are , we don’t have to pretend or try to impress , coz it takes a lot of effort and over the time becomes a pain in the rear as one day you need to draw the curtains and bare your soul to your partner. So, it is essential to find someone who understands our silence and not just our words.

Everybody has their own timing. To earn a degree, to earn the first paycheck, to start their own firm or to get married or to have a kid, no one can control or force these things. All you do is try with pure intention and genuine effort. Da Vinci was 51 years old when he painted the Mona Lisa.

Life itself is hard, sad, unreasonable, and irrational all at the same time, over the time so little of it makes sense and so much of it seems unfair. A lot of it simply boils down to the unsatisfying formula of good and bad luck. I personally don’t believe in Luck but for me it is the Timing- right time, right place, right situation and with right people is Luck, but what are the odds of all these stars aligning together?- let me leave that you to ponder on .

Do not do things that you know are morally wrong. Not because someone is watching, but because you are. Self-esteem is just the reputation that you have with yourself. You will always know. Nobody asked you to beat yourself up by doing things which are above yourself for the people who do not even care. A Priest can swear, vegetarian can wear leather shoes, do as much good you can and keep pushing forward. Always remember that the worlds heavy representation is not resting only on the decisions we make.

So be your full self, no holding back. It is about time you decide what warms your soul, do what makes you happy and try not to hurt anyone even when you have to say a No. If not anything you would sleep in peace and would not have any regrets!